• Temika Mccann
• Blog week 5 (6165)

                                    Disagreements, or Conflicts

• On last week I had a disagreement with one of my family member concerning her child grades in school. I was sharing with her that it is not ok for Malaya to keep getting behind in her class work. My cousin Brionna was very upset with me.I shared with her how difficult it can be being as a single mom, but it vital that Malaya catch up with her reading assignments as well. Over the last pass week I have learn how to communicate more effectively with others. The two strategies that, I have learn that would help me manage and resolve this conflict in a more productively and optimistic way. I feel that the R’s help me in a significant way first you have to make sure when you are communicating with others it should always be mutual respect between the communicators and race, religion and personal beliefs should always be respect whether it is on a personal or a professional level. The second strategy, I would create a human positive connection between the person that I am communicating with and show them respect, compassion and empathy of what they might be dealing with and I am willing to compromise if all necessary mean to resolve any conflict in a respectable matter. I feel when people communicate with one another I believe to treat others the way they wish to be treated, effective communication succeeds
• I would like for one or two colleagues to share with me how have you learned to be more of a effective communicator as it relates to issues and conflict that we all deal with on a daily basis and what are some of the skills you have learn in this class to help you to resolve these issues in a positive way. I will wait for your reply.

Reference:

The Center for Nonviolent Communication. (n.d.). The Center for Nonviolent Communication. Retrieved from http://www.cnvc.org

                                                     Communication Skills

The blog for this  assignment  this week was  very interested, I asked my mother and best friend to evaluate my verbal aggressiveness, and listening styles and skills during communication. The evaluations I conduct about my own self and how my mother and best friend I was surprise the feedback I got. I thought I was doing fine with my communication skills, but after the evaluation I saw that I do need to improve something. I feel that the way others observe us is also imperative than what we want to see for what we think it should be. I amazed of how my mother perceive me as her daughter has been easy going. I was shock with my best friend respond she said sometime I can come off to aggressive.

I feel my mother look at me from a mother perspective and she problem was basing her answer as what she see me doing on a day to day. I was amaze of the outcome of how both perceive me. I feel that  I can be perceive to be a little different when working with children and families and my true personality  of how  I am assuming this is so because, I am more comfortable with my family and they may see my real personality. I think if my friends from school would have done this assignment they would see me different from how my best friend is doing. After talking to my best friend she said to me that she noticed that my communication skills and tone down my voice need to decreases when I am communicating with other. I noticed that they both had a different way to perceive me. I think because one was from my mom point of view and one is from my best friend.   

After the evaluation from my mom and my best friends, I was shock how they both observe me and how I observe myself. I thought the relationship we had; I thought that my best friend would have look at me from a different point of view. This assignment was very informative and I gained so much about how I can improve my relationships with others in a more mutual and respectful way. I am now able to work on and correct the way I communicate with others for now on.

Temika McCann

6165

Temika McCann

Course #6165
  Week 3 blog                                            

                              Communication Styles With Other Groups of People

I myself feel like when I am around other group of individual who might be different from me. I feel that I do communicate differently. If I am talking to family and friends, I feel free and talk a little ghetto. That because I am more comfortable with them. When conversation with a friends and family, you are able to express your true self when you are with them on a continue basis. I also feel you can really express how you really feel when you are in a deep personal conversation with them. I feel when I am with my family and friend I can really be transparent with them when it comes to different topics whether it is personal or professional.

If I am speaking to a boss, parent and peers, I act different I will not speak to my peers, boss and parent using ghetto language, I will be more conservative and professional. I will make sure I am speaking with clarity and respectful. If I speaking with my boss I will make sure I am carefully choosing the correct word and the tone which I am speaking in when talking to him/her. If I was speaking to my peers I will make sure I am using correct grammar and make sure they understand me clearly.   When I speak with my children and families I will be very respectful and ask them how your day was going.  If their child was not having a good day, I will be very careful how I would say certain thing when  approaching the child parent about any issue that nay have occurred that day. I will always make sure I am aware of the child and family and make sure that I am not being bias regardless of race, gender and religion.If people who are from another culture, I will find out how that particular culture communicate so I can make him/her feel more at easy. I will also be careful in choosing my words so I want make anyone feel embarrass because each culture communicate differently. For example, I had a Korean friend and he shared with me when his wife is around make sure that, I am not saying a certain word because if I say it and she hear me she might think we are dating, I was like WOW!. I feel it is very vital that we are being caution especially when people our from other culture than us.

I feel as an educator when I am communicating with a parent or his/her family. If any issues occur that day I will ask is there anything we can do as a team so that these issues will not happen again.  I feel if something needs to be said I will make sure that no one would be around, but me in the child and parents. I feel that when I talking to parents I have to make sure I am respecting all culture regardless of race, gender and religion. Over all we communicate very different when we with others who may be different from us we have to make sure rather they our parents, peers and studentship our all being treat with dignity.

Temika McCann

Blog wk 2 6165-1

                                                  TV Show Observation Sound On and Off

I have never watched preacher of La before, but I always was curious what the show was all about. As a result I choose this show for my blog this week. What I perceive with the sound off the show seems lively, individuals are smiling and laughing it seems to me that they are having a good time. Show consists of Preachers of LA," the faith-based reality show that sparked controversy and critical debate. The show also allow preacher to be open and transparent with each other’s. The show tells how preachers and their family live outside of the church. There was a lot of enjoyment, face expressions and some nonverbal communication going on. I also noticed that some pastors were looking very serious and some was happy engage in a conversation for example Noel Jones and his friend Desire seem very much happy with each other. Some preachers and wife in the show look very serious and some was smiling and some even showed some angry. This show to me showed a lot of serious emotion. As I was observing the individual, I was not too sure of some of the body language, but I was able to see a lot of facial expression and smiling that was going on a lot in the show.

After truing up the TV sound and what I observe about the individual in the show, I was accurate about what I was observing with the TV sound down. I was correct to see several individual in the show happy the first one was bishop Noel Jones seem to be the one who was happy when he was talking to Desire in the show. I   anticipated that the woman was smiling with Bishop she like him and it turn out to be correct of what I was observing.   I was amazed of myself after watching this couple and to discover that I was correct was awesome.  Watching the individual face expression let me realize how vital it is to pay attention when we our engage into a dialogue with others and it let me know also how a person might be feeling. I also  realize that face expression can tell you a lot about how other are seeing thing from his/her perception.

I realize with some of the  assumptions that I made was correct, but if I would have watch the show more often, I think I could give a more precise decision on all the individuals who played a significant role in the show. Overall I still think I did a good job especially when, I observed the individual would definitely would be more correct had I known the show and the role of  each characters because I would understand them much better and place their actions and roles into place. I also learned that when you are able to hear individual talking in a show you can be able to really make a accurate assumption about each individual. I learned so much from this week blog and I gained so much insight that will help me be more aware when communicating with others on a daily basis.